Reading over your recent post, I see how your W is still thinking very selfishly. The things she says to you sound very much like WW's in other threads. They have a way of giving a backhanded explanation that somehow makes the LBH feel guilty, while in the same breath tell him how she's going to continue happily living a single, wayward lifestyle.

It's still all about her, isn't it. It's all about how she feels.

Hopefully, you are able to make a new life and enjoy the new man you are becoming.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!