My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance

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Hey everybody just trying to get a little advice. I am thinking about making a firm stand on going back into our marital bed. I'd like to work on getting some respect back from WAW. I feel like I haven't mentioned or addressed directly the OM, and that it needs some effort. Direct or indirect. Our house is our house, and if she wants to choose to live differently than that's up to her. I'd like to go back to my normal life, so I think I'm going to try to start living that again aside from no Pursuit and getting a life. Inevitably, she is going to try to kick me out of the bedroom.

What I plan to do is to validate her feelings over and over. I will not argue or lose my temper. If she asked me how I feel about it then I believe I'll tell her what you doing is not acceptable and it is hurtful and leave it at that. I do believe that I truly need to work towards getting some respect for myself in this R.

If she brings up D again, I am going to mention then I'll speak to my lawyer about it. Up until this point she has had that thought, as someone pointed out, that I would not get a lawyer and we will figure out the D on our own. She expected to go easily and quickly.

Also if anyone wants to go back and read my previous post I'd still be open to advice on that. Thank you in advance.