After that she ended up saying that she planned to go on a drive a few days later, I was curious where, so I asked. She wouldn't tell me. Unfortunately, due to the ongoing project, I still had to reach out to her almost daily (truly unavoidable, not just me wanting to). She seemed much more distant and very cold in our correspondence, so I couldn't take it any more. The next day, I asked her if I had done something to tick her off. I mentioned that she seemed cold, but she disagreed and got emotional. She ended up telling me where she was planning to drive to (its a place I went with her once before), I offered to go with her, but she said she no longer felt like it.

This was on a Wednesday, but I felt terrible for raining on her parade. I decided I was going to try and surprise her and go on a kayak trip with her. I loaded up my small car with a very large kayak (sketchy) and made the trip on Saturday. She was very shocked to see me. She agreed to go out kayaking with me. We did and had a pretty good time (although we picked a bad spot to kayak).

We started to drive back to her condo when she said, hey, we are near the trails that I drive the Jeep on. Want to go? I was so excited, as I had stopped asking a long time ago. We went and she even let me drive the trails. Part way through, she got the idea to take the doors off. When she had wanted to do this in the past, I would always be sour and give her a hard time, but this time I wholeheartedly agreed. We drove around for a few hours and she showed me all of her favorite spots.

Many months ago, when I spent the night at her condo, I violated her trust/privacy. I woke up one morning and noticed her computer next to the couch. I logged in to her email to snoop around. I had been reading a bunch of things online all pointing to maybe another person. It was not premeditated, but in a moment of weakness I dug around for about 5 minutes. I didn't find anything, but she did get a text message alerting her to the login. When she confronted me, I denied, denied, denied. I was ashamed of what I did and it has eaten at me for months. She brought it up during the conversation when we looked at houses, but I again denied. Anyway, fast forward to when we were at the end of the Jeep ride, I came clean. She said she knew it and that she had given me multiple opportunities to come clean. I didn't defend myself, but said I was ashamed and hoped she would forgive me. She hasn't brought it up since.


We ended up having a talk that night, she again brought up her physical rejection. She said she thinks about our R every moment of every day and that she feels like she is at a cross road. When she is at our home, she can see it working out. When she is at the condo, she loves her space and wants to be there. She started to look for new jobs to apply to, but does not feel too qualified for much more than min wage type jobs. She eventually found a retail job and a job with the USPS to apply for. Both were part time and both asked to interview her.



She randomly brought up a time that a friend of a friend was with her many years ago. This person is a "psychic" by profession. Anyway, this person took her phone from her and started flipping through her pics. She landed on a normal pic of W and I and she said, "Why would you be with a person like that?". She didn't elaborate, as W was offended that this random person was flipping through her phone and talking about our R, but she said that moment has stuck with her. Could this "psychic" see something that she was missing?


Me: 28
W: 28
No Kids
Together: 10 years
Married: 3 years
ILYBIDLY: 11/2/17
She moved out: 11/15/17