Just a Vanilla change 37

[Coconut]

He told me this is the first proper date he has had in 7 years. Given up on OLD because of 'weirdness'. Trouble is he is too keen to push it forward very fast. Red flag, red flag, red flag........

What is wrong with taking time on it?

He has evaluated that I don't have much of it because of exam pressure for the next couple of months. Soooooo........

I got a text saying whilst he felt chemistry, he had decided I wasn't available for a full on R and besides he thought I was 'too good for him, and would loose interest very quickly and be bored"

What is wrong with dating?

so many possibilities, 7 years without a date could make him very awkward, uneasy, and unsure how to handle it.. or maybe he feels defeated because he hasn't been able to get a date in so long and needs someone who will cling on to him to inflate his ego a little.. either way, not up to you to try and figure out.

I think stepping away is smart if only because of the self-deprecating comments, not attractive and likely to continue. A big sign of insecurity about oneself, as well as what he said about you getting bored shows a fear of being "hurt", so he's avoiding the possibility. In order for Love to be worth while, you have to be vulnerable to getting hurt.

As for taking time dating, maybe he figures the 7 years was him taking time on dating and now just wants to make up for lost time.