OrangeK - Thanks for the kind words. If my journey can shed some light to others, I am more than happy that I could provide some insight from my falls and successes. Keep it up! When I started, people told me that there was light at the end of the tunnel, but I didn't trust it. After a year, I know that the sun is shining bright for me and all I say to others is that - trust the process for yourself and put in the work, there will be redemption for you, and much much more. It is hard to see that in the beginning and I fully understand that, but accepting the pain and going through it is the best way. It is hella rough, don't get me wrong, but it is the most rewarding because it gives you no choice but to grow.
J9 - I know we've come a long way. We came on the boards about the same time and you have truly been a brother to me along this journey. Yeah, I am going to take a step back in commenting for a bit - Blu's latest thread explains how she feels about it now and I kinda feel the same. There are amazing people here still and hopefully the newbies also do what we did - dig up past threads and read up.
LH - yeh, your signature is what I am embodying in my life too. Your W is a big girl and hopefully she can live with her decision in the long term. You sound like you're more than fine and embracing life fully - major kudos.
Vanilla - thanks for the update on the goals. I will go and take a look back and reprioritize some stuff. I also have so many things I want to do and I don't have the time for everything. But, breaking things into bite sized chunks will be helpful. I don't need to achieve everything by 2018 - but I want to get good at a few things and I have to map it out. I want to invest in myself and that takes some time. I think I am in a better place now emotionally and mentally to focus on it. Before it was just too much wallowing in my victimhood and all of that. That's why the D will be a good step in closing things for me and getting that fresh start. I haven't been living in limbo or anything, but there needs to be some finality to this chapter as I am slowly coming into myself as my own person and shedding the husband identity.
Life is exciting and I am looking forward to mapping out what I want to do and then committing to the process.
