Do as mtb says. And concentrate on the detachment and validation threads. You were very passive-aggressive in your interactions with her in the kitchen. That is not loving detachment. Nor validation.
Should have:
"My dad has a pour-over coffee maker that makes better coffee than my french press" Me: "Oh yeah, I've heard are really good especially if you grind your own beans."
Her at the sink: "We've got ants again, think I can wash him down the drain?" Me: "Yes, torch that little sucker with hot water and wash him away!"
She also said "I don't think you understand what is happening here," which I think she meant about the reality of her wanting a divorce and there being nothing I can do to stop it or change her mind. I think then is when I told her "I completely understand. You want a divorce. There is nothing I can do to prevent you from doing that if it is what you want. It takes two to make a marriage but only one to make a divorce. So while I disagree with the decision, I have to let you go."
Those would have been a lot more productive. Detachment is not being mean, or silent, or "icing out". Read the link. And then study the validation link.
Otherwise, you might as well just go file for D yourself.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
