[s]No[/s] affair, no feelings...is there hope? III

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Okay, 44.

You handled it as well as you could over the phone. Good on you for that.

Mowgli! Nice to hear from you Thanks, man. I did my best.

first, don't believe her when she says they "just kissed." That's middle school bulls**t. It will all come out in the end and it will be something you may needs answers to before you are on the path to healing.

Yup, huge grain of salt taken there. I'm not overly concerned about it at the moment, but eventually the truth will come out as you say. One of the messages I saw gave me the impression it might really not have gone farther, so that's why I told Steve it "checks out" but I'm totally prepared for the worst.

The next conversation you guys have is going to be pivotal.

Ahh, pressure! Can you explain a little more what you mean by this?

The one problem here is that you need to stay NC while she is gone, but you also need to remember that she is thinking about an planning exactly what she is going to say to you, and she has multiple days to figure out her "script."

When Cadet talks about "believing none of what they say, and half of what they do, that is where your head needs to be."

Right, great point. My guard is remaining fully up throughout all of this. We'll see what she comes up with...

Sani already mentioned that her treatment of you is habitual. Any time the disrespect arises, you stick to your boundary (I will not let anyone talk to me like that, etc.)

This is my number one priority.

She's going to talk a lot about how she wasn't happy. This is your time to say something along the lines of "What? did you think I was fine with the way things were going? I wasn't happy, either."

WWs rewrite the entire R history, putting themselves on a pedestal and make the H out to be some lazy schmuck. You are not that. You were not happy, either, but you didn't voice those concerns because of NGS (just like me, man).

It'll be weird in that She'll kind of half way try to throw you under the bus to justify her actions while trying to apologize at the same time. Don't get sucked in.

I will be prepared for this. I think it's very important. You are totally right about not voicing the concerns due to NGS, and it was such a big factor in creating this whole mess. I will not let my needs be pushed aside any longer.

Thanks so much for your input, man. Hope to hear from you again as my situation progresses.