[s]No[/s] affair, no feelings...is there hope? III

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One last thing. Also do not fall into the trap of being sorry for what she has done vs. being sorry she got caught. More than likely there is a heavy dose of the latter going on, especially since she started questioning how much you knew you right away. Also, be careful assuming she has told you everything. She probably told you enough to make you feel like she was confessing, but left some things out.

Thank you, Steve! You're right about everything. I know the roller coaster has only just begun. This is just the first checkpoint of this journey. I know she will likely be hot and cold. I will be aware of her trying affection as manipulation, thanks for the tip. I do wonder if that will happen given most of the problem with us is that she doesn't feel attracted to me. But we'll see.

I have thought a lot about how much of her remorse is for what she did or that I forced her to face it. As I said to Sandi, I think she is still very self-focused so that definitely contributes to her feelings of remorse being about her, but I think it was as much as she is capable of right now. I am also taking everything she said about the A with a grain of salt. The good thing is, everything she said checks out with my gut instinct and what I already suspected based on my intel, including when she claims to have ended it. So I don't have a reason to be suspicious yet, but I'm not going to to trust anything more than 50%.