Advice on my Scenario Pt. 6 - Becoming a Warrior

[OrangeK]

It's tough. W's mom is on her third marriage. So is her father and grandmother. I think my W is just numb to the idea of D. Like it's just some normal thing to do when you get to a rough spot in your M.

My WW says the same thing, Her mom is on M #3 and misrable, her Dad Divorced X 2 and single, bad health.
She has literally said "i grew up in a divorced household and I turned out fine. Kids are resiliant he will be fine"
Yea....She turned out fine.....and im the freakin' Pope.

She has told me several times that it won't affect the kids. But she forgets about all the times she's told me in the past about how her mom got a job as a bartender and left her and her brother at home with their stepdad for days at a time (sounds familiar, doesn't it?)and the effect it had on her.

The hypocrisy and ability to blind ones self from the truth is truly astonishing isn't it?

She felt abandoned and still holds this against her mother. She has told me in the past that she thinks a lot of her issues stem from her crappy childhood in a broken home being bounced back and forth between her parents. It blows my mind that she can't see she's doing the exact same thing to her kids now, but there's nothing I can do to make her see it. I just feel bad for the kids. They don't understand what's going on. They just know they don't like it...

It is friggin heartbreaking. If my WW wanted to half-@$$ parenting so bad, why trick me into having a child in the first place?
I could pose the same question regarding getting married so whats the point in trying to understand the logic of such damaged people. Logic isnt there to analyze.