Drained

[SteveLW]

black8, in my opinion anytime a WW/WAW pushes anything that far into the future, there is a high likelihood they will not follow through on them. There are two kinds of WW/WAW spouses:

1) Those that come to you on BD and say the classic things and then say they are leaving immediately, or shortly thereafter.

2) Those that come to you on BD and say the classic things and then say they think they want to leave, but aren't sure. Or say they want to leave but need time, or give you a future move out date.

In 1, usually they follow through and you start a true separation. In 2 you start an in-house separation and the WAW/WW continues to talk (notice there is no action to back up the talk) about leaving.

The WAW/WW in 2 will also usually leave things in this limbo as long as they can. When they feel like the LBH is about to pull the trigger on booting them or moving out himself, then they start to capitulate on their decision. If they never feel like the LBH is growing close to booting or leaving, they will continue to drag the limbo out for as long as they can.

As you can see, in your position what happens is really up to you. She will continue to cake eat and delay. Fall is about as non-specific as it gets. "I am planning on us separating sometime 4 months from now, in a 3 month window? Really? Likely as the end of fall draws closer she will be verbally pushing the timeframe out, or still saying "fall" while doing nothing to move it forward.

BTW, there is much debate about whether 1 or 2 above is worse. I tend to believe 2 is worse, and have heard a lot of good arguments as to why that is.