Just went back and caught up. Turns out I had been reading your sitch, so knew most of what had occurred. Christ in general I think you were handling it correctly. Notice that as you distanced she started chasing.
I would be tempted, if I were you, to tell her this: "I am morally opposed to divorce. I refuse to take part in the divorce. If you want to divorce it is on you and I will only do what I am court ordered to do."
Another marriage expert I listen to and read (not MWD) put it this way. If your wife came to you with a plot to murder your neighbor, would you join in the plot if she asked you? No you wouldn't because it would be wrong. Same thing when your spouse comes to you with a plot to murder your marriage.
Chris, do you want the divorce? If not, then I would stop all voluntary participation. I saw something about dissolution rather than divorce. I do not know the difference, but I assume you can contest a dissolution just like you can a divorce. And finally, I see the reason for going with a dissolution is financial? Letting finances drive your decisions in these things, in my opinion, is a terrible choice. I've said this to others here, never agree to something based on it being better financially. Money is way to important to most people.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
