A tiny observation if I may, never tel, the kids mommy loves them or both mommy and I love you. It can create cognitive dissonance and it's mind and feeling reading. If asked you can say "I think mommy loves you".
Why the subtle difference?
You don't know what the child is thinking or feeling and if this is a cut off statement. A close down, like a full stop in a sentence and actually you want a comma.
So why do you say that? Is a better statement.
With younger children you may find it hard to stop them blabing about their day with mom. But with older children is just ok to say 'glad you had a great day' and to cut the discussion of activities short (but not that of feelings). Your kids are younger so it's a bit of a shite sandwich at the moment.
When kids are old enough they can make their own videos and texts as needed. You don't have to listen to 'I am standing'. And yes it's an obnoxious message and there are thousands of songs they could be singing that are happy mothers day songs. WTF?
Neither parent should be discussing their R with their kids, giving an age appropriate message, definitely but using them as a go between. No. It's extremely damaging all round. I do other think lying to kids is in any way a good idea, as an adult you become someone they can't trust. So well done on facing this.
You are doing great.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
