Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 3)

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Thanks, Vanilla... I always appreciate anything you have to say...

Juju... Thank you for your input as well. It was your post that made me realize I should say Happy Mother's Day because it means nothing more than that. I felt better saying it than not. And you're right about non-existent parents being parents on certain days. It's all for show...

W dropped the kids back off at 6:00 as planned. She was pretty cold during our interaction. She showed up with a frozen pizza that she cooked at her house for the kids, but brought it here because she didnt have any dishes at her place. She was kind of a jerk about it. Came to the door and said, "Do you want to bring this in or can I? Because I guess I'm not allowed in the house." while rolling her eyes. I told her she could go in and get things ready for them. She cut the pizza and then walked back outside. She told me she would be back tomorrow to get some shelves, dishes, and the table and chairs from the basement because CEFS was doing a house check on Tuesday. This basically means that she has been telling CEFS that the kids have been living with her for the past several months, but has no proof and it looks like no one lives in her place. She also had her uncle, Uncle Enabler, buy bunk beds for the boys today and her mom is bringiing her a bed for our daughter tomorrow. So it looks like she can finally show CEFS on Tuesday that kids are in the house. Her whole demeanor was very cold the entire 10-15 minutes she was there. Then she left...

Tucking the kids into bed tonight, and D asked me why mommy and I were getting divorced. I explained to her the best I could that I didn't want to , but mommy wanted some time to herself and maybe we won't get divorced. It was not their fault (S was in the room also) and we both loved them and I hoped that mommy would come home sometime when she figured out what she wanted. Then D tells me that W asked her if I still love her. D says, yes dadfy loves you a lot. He tells us all the time. Then D asked W what if he didn't ove you? W told D I would be really sad and cry a lot. Then W told D that she wanted to come back home, but I wouldn't let her (Totally not true). WTF?!?!? I'm not sure how to process this information. Or if there's really any substance to it. Could just be my 9 year old daughter getting things mixed up. Anyway, the whole thing about W asking if I still love her to our D and saying she wants to come back but I won't let her has me confused...