Hello, I'm new here. :)

[Jlh]

Girl, do I know how you feel!!!!

That pursuit/distant crap is so confusing and exhausting. I'm somewhat in the middle if that myself, or so I think, haha. I sometimes just want to say, "stop with these games" but I can't for obvious reasons.

I get what you mean by the being rude. I feel the same. You aren't being rude, it just feels as such. As long as you aren't being out right rude, then you probably aren't. It's because you care for him that you feel this way.

So be proud of me. My son wanted to call his dad so I called his cell and then helped him talk to his dad for a bit (he's still young and doesn't get the phone yet) and then helped him politely say goodbye and I love you. Then without talking to my husband I showed him how to hang up the phone. That was a first for me to do and it felt good honestly. Usually I take the phone back and we talk for a bit of small talk before we hang up where my husband gives mixed signals like crazy. Its just too much so I'm working more on the distance and last resort technique. these ups and downs are just too much right now and I'm fed up with his mixed signal casual attitude one minute and sad puppy dog faces and attitude the next.