Awkward situation closing act

[Tate]

Ive left and resurfaced several times from this board mainly because I lacked tge time to keep rehashing my sutuation.

So, let me step back and see exactly what I need to do diffetently...Ill start with my schedule: Monday and Wednesday, wife in school, I take cate of the kids, wife comes home late, I have zero ibteraction with her. Tuesday and Thursdays, I go on trainibg bike rides with friends right after work, shower up and put kids to bed, no interaction with wife, go to bed. Fridays vary...usually hang out with the kids while wife does chores, no intetaction with wife. Saturdays, training ride and working outside until lunchtime or later, come in and hang out with kids, no interaction with wife. Sunday, church, them outing as family or hang with kids as wife does school work.

I spend zero time with my wife with exception of church and maybe a famiky outing. I GAL by training with friends, and I spend a lot of time just me with our kids.

When my wife goes out of town, I go about half the time with my family...more in rrcent history than historically. As mentioned, this was a 180 for me...spending more time as a family.

I stayed home this weekend and went out yesterday with a new friend and her kids...NOT a date. Next weekend, I am thriwing a birthday outing with friends and taking the kids out of town solo.

I have been married my entire adult lufe...so, I may not be good at doing tgings on my own...for me. But, how am I not detached?...I do nearly everything on my own or with my kids.

Im frustrated by comments on here as well...I followed advice of coaches after passing on advice from this forum to tge coaches. The comments are very generak, like get your balls back, detach, GAL...I really dont understand what to do differently.