She sent me some messages while I was at the meet up. "Please don't drink since you're driving. Be careful." Later, "Let me know when you leave and when you make it home safe?" I did not respond to any of these for a few hours. When I did, I said "Don't worry. Okay." (I know I probably shouldn't have agree to let her know I made it home).
She is pretending to care......but actually, she's trying to trick you into revealing who, what, where, and when you are out. "Please don't drink and drive". What a manipulator!
OMG, it is so obvious what she is doing! If it wasn't so immature and manipulative, it would be hilarious. She was eating out of your hand......I really hope you can see it.
Don't respond. She'll break the silence, don't worry. She even apologized when she didn't get an answer earlier. Doesn't that show you how she works? Let it go to voice mail. If you feel too weak, turn off the phone. This has been a really great break, if you don't scr@w it up.
BTW, you handled it great. I'm impressed. . Now, just stand firm and don't join her tag game. She can threaten separation all she dares, but the truth is she doesn't want separation. She gave herself away too much to not see that. When one little thing didn't give her the response she wanted, and immediately, she would come back with something else. How long has it been since you've heard her give an apology? Bet she thought she had finally pushed you too far. You are getting very, very close to having her right where you need her to confront about the A.
If you don't feel ready, then tell her you are going radio silence until she gets back home. Don't tell her anymore than that you have some serious thinking to do about the future. Just that you need to be left alone for a few days. Then, turn off your phone. (You don't have to keep it off round the clock, just for the sake of an emergency). Anyway, that's just my view. Maybe Artista will give you her opinion.
Here's the thing, 44. Speaking from her side of the fense, she needs to have some troubling thoughts of her own. She needs to realize she is not the only one in the M that could dish a few ultimatums. Right? She was so quick to tell you to consider yourself free and fully separated (gave herself away with that one.....b/c she just wants to be S sexually), and she behaves as if she never thinks you may dump her a$$. She needs to wonder what you are doing, what have you found out about her, etc.
Like I said, you handled it great. Be careful of your nice guy tendencies. If you aren't sure what to say, wait until you can post it on the board, if possible.
Oh, BTW.......whenever you should decide to bust her about the A, don't hint around about it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
. Now, just stand firm and don't join her tag game. She can threaten separation all she dares, but the truth is she doesn't want separation. She gave herself away too much to not see 