As far as our odd interactions, I think it comes from me wanting to save our marriage and my wife checking out long ago and being used to faking the wife role...filing for divorce is no different a feeling for her.
No. That's not it... Just about every man who comes here wants to save his marriage, and has a wife who has checked out... Most LBH may not require their WW to do the work (same as you... You all tend to make excuses for your WWs) but they at least start working on themselves at differing levels... You have yet to work on yourself...
You have gotten top-notch advice during all of your segments, (you have segments because you come here for a time, then disappear, then resurface with your situation being worse than before)... You have every excuse for why you can't take the advice (which could have saved your marriage, or at the very least, given you your manhood back)... But you keep doing what you do, make no real changes, and now your WW has filed... i told you she would... And again, your situation is worse, and you are still making excuses... Perhaps this hard-headedness is something your wife is turned off by? I don't know...
In any case, you are in a different place now, that has been forced on you... 180s that would have impressed your W in the beginning will not do it now... Going on weekends away with her and the kids... Too little, too late... You seem determined to stay ATTACHED... I can see that even if the D becomes final, and WW ends up with BIL, you will still somehow be attached... Don't fool yourself into thinking it won't happen because family won't accept it... WW and BIL won't care about that... Who knows, your sister may still invite them over for dinners and weekends...
