I am so impressed with how you cope with all the crazy that ex has and continues to bring into your and your kids lives. To me you are someone who accepts that his MLC has to go forward, like a river. You cannot stand in direct confrontation and stop it, you redirect it, and you barricade at places for protection.
I do feel for your kids. Mine got blasted with waaay too much information. They are older, but is a lot to process for them. And yes they were angry.
They cannot unhear what they have heard, or unknow certain things that may have been better unrevealed. I think the best we can do is to work with what has happened to promote understanding and healing. And IMO you are doing that very well.
I am glad you have a good L. She sounds very competent and much better than your exs L.
You exh still sounds very much the bully and controlling. Stay strong.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
