Loves, I agree and appreciate that remark. I currently don't know if W has OM. She did in the past but swears there is no one now. I tend to believe her, I don't fully trust anything based on the past A. Once bitten....

What gets me is the level of effort with respect and consideration that had been missing for so long, now she shows, yet she claims she is on her way out. Very confusing.

Mature communication is apparently too much to expect. Anger is the product of feeling that you deserve something that you are being cheated out of. This doesn't mean that we shrug responsibility for contributing to a toxic R.

I believe most of us feel cheated.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.