Affair discovered

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P.S. And I also forgot to say that if your wife is entering MLC, you have to be really careful or she will spend everything you have. Money was always a huge issue for us too, my H was always a bit crazy with it, and in deep debt when we met, but my H has spent well over 30K on extras and tuition during his MLC not to mention left me with all our debts and continues to demand money from me since I "refuse" to sell the house (he wants to live on his half). You can show respect and love to her without letting her buy a car you can't afford! That is not a good test of your love or marriage or a good way to buy her or you back, it is a an MLC-style test. I would try something more proactive -- e.g., tell her that you will always take care of her because she is your wife but out of respect for your marriage and to make sure your son is taken care of, you will always put the family's needs first. You could tell her that you want her to feel the control of her choices that she craves, so she can make her own account and you will put X amount into it per week from your earnings, and out of that can come all her spending for her car, groceries, etc. Then if she wants to blow money on a car you can't afford, it will be a consequence she faces on her own. My H demanded his own account in the beginning and I was crushed. But in the end, it enabled me to start separating finances enough that his crazy MLC excesses (hair transplant, for example) damaged deeply but so far didn't destroy our family.