What was her body language when she was asking if you filed? I know that my WW look like I had slapped her when I said I had contact a divorce attorney. She of course was delusional about a non-lawyer, quickie online divorce. My contacting a lawyer really burst that fantasy bubble. My guess is that your W is feeling a similar pang of "uh oh, stuff just got real".

She probably played it cool, but her head is spinning that you just took a huge leap out of the MR and out of her realm of control.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018