[s]No[/s] affair, no feelings...is there hope? III

[SteveLW]

sandi, every time I read your story I think more and more about how much you sound just like my wife. And though my problems were different than your H's, it still resonates with me on many points, right down to checking her PC and finding the messages and pictures.

What is awesome is that you were able to pull yourself out of it. My W did the same thing in 2005 with her first EA. 12 years later, at the end of last year, her attitude was completely different. In 2005 she immediately said she wanted to save the MR. In Dec. 2017 she immediately said she didn't want to be married anymore. This was a huge blow, since I thought, like in 2005 when I confronted, she'd knock it off.

So what was the difference? 2 things, her level of waywardness. In 2005 she was dabbling, toe in the water. It was more emotional than anything physical (no pictures, etc). In 2017 she was full blown wayward, pictures and other activities no doubt.

The main difference is exactly what sandi said, lack of respect. In 2005 she still respected my leadership, my providing, and me as a H. In 2017 that respect was gone.

I've slowly been rebuilding it, but it takes time.