Now I see it as true that I have put my life/work second to hers, but before all of this I would've said I supported her work ambitions and put the family first. I agree that now that good intention has been warped and has only encouraged her workaholic tendencies. We never had some arrangement that this was to be the case, in fact, I made it abundantly clear last Sept that I knew she was in for a rough next few months and as such I agreed to take on the lions share of child/house duties, but that was to end by January or so. Things changed, of course, and now it's May and I know it'll be a rough next few weeks, but I can't wait to start my temp gig out of town where I'll have time to myself to be a great worker in a special place, reigniting my passion for my profession. Once back home in late August we'll need to reassess where we're at...
Had a good therapy session yesterday and the topic of my immigrant father in law losing his job when W was only 8yo or so has had a big affect on her behavior. To this day he's never found steady work since, instead depending on his wife to hustle low paying jobs for the past 35 years. Now they're old and have little savings and as they gave so much to send their kids to good schools she has a lot of guilt over this. He was a professor and well paid, and is now just a broken delusional dreamer chasing get-rich-quick schemes that of course never pan out. It's a shame, but I can see how this deeply affects my wife even if on a subconscious level.
She had a few good emails and meetings the past couple days with potential employers, so im praying something works out that makes her happy and allows for some life balance for the family.
Thanks again for the solid feedback, as always...
Me: 43 She: 43 Married 14 Together 20 D7 S6 Separation bomb Dec 2017 Reconciled 3 weeks later Jan 2018 Second separation bomb April 2018
