I'm failing to understand how revealing the A is seen as "controlling" on behalf of the LBS?
I guess I should have said pursuit and pressure. You are right if done right it doesn't have to be control.
The other danger is a lot of times the cheating spouse will focus on the method of discovery. sandi warns about this. 44 if you can stay strong in not revealing how you found out then you might want to consider confronting her when you are ready.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
