Quote: When I was bending over trying to see how to open the car hood H was standing behind me "acting as if" if you catch my drift..lol...
My H USED to do the same thing! So I know what you mean.
I too see a few changes in your H, probably brought on by the fact that he sees a change in you. you're detaching and backing off, giving him space. And you're not playing into his hands, when he starts his little "acts" to push your buttons.
I think you are going to find that the new path your are on, just may wake your H up. Him not going out shows he is curious to what "you" are up to. Does he now see; he could loose you? Keep doing what you are doing, I believe it just may work. I also like the fact that you answer his questions with a question; PERFECT! LOL I love it!