Welcome to the other side brother I (and others here as well) am constantly trying to preach that when people properly DB, they come out a winner no matter what happens to their M. Because DB'ing is all about becoming the spouse only a fool would leave, and if they leave anyway then they are a fool and do you really want to be married to a fool? You are a perfect example of winning outside of recon.
I also appreciate that you mentioned that your WAS now wants to recon, because something else I preach a lot is that with enough time, most WAS's do indeed attempt to recon. But by then so much time has passed that the LBS has healed and moved on, and it's the LBS that stops recon in it's tracks. I suspect there are many stories like yours but most don't come back here to share them, so thanks for that.
Originally Posted By: endofit
I wish someone couldve hit me in the head with a 2x4 3 years ago when my now ex wife started her BS.
I went back and read your thread and you got clubbed pretty good, especially by TXHubby. The problem with most of us is right after BD we are so hyper-focused on "putting things back to normal" that we are blind to good advice and 2x4's. Eventually it sinks in, but it takes a while.
TXHubby switched from pussycat to lion as well, and his W also decided she wanted to recon with him. Like you, he told her it was too late. She literally begged him and eventually he did decide to give her another shot. But he went in eyes wide open.
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Take away step 3 and you just have a couple of sad sacks.
I (and others here as well) am constantly trying to preach that when people properly DB, they come out a winner no matter what happens to their M. Because DB'ing is all about becoming the spouse only a fool would leave, and if they leave anyway then they are a fool and do you really want to be married to a fool? You are a perfect example of winning outside of recon.
