dusty - yeh I've done the same. First the weight loss was due to not being able to eat well and sleep either. But, it leveled out and I got in gear and started doing stuff for myself. I am quite sure that I am nowhere ready to invest in someone when I step out into the dating world. I just really miss the intimacy and physical connection as well.
My W still hasn't been to IC and I don't know if she ever will. I think it scares the bejeezus outta her. But, as that is my first requirement if she ever came around, she'll have to get over her fears. But honestly, I don't think it's turning around. I know that she has been in a depression coupled with some really drastic changes in her life in the last 2 years, I think she has classic signs of a MLC. But, it doesn't matter to me because it's not changing my game plan. And what I read from the MLC board, I don't have years to spare for her to go on her journey and come around. I am still young enough to find a partner that would be good to me and meet my needs. Unfortunately for her, the ship is very close to having set sail.
J9 - yeh, end of June/early July is the tentative timeline when either of us can file for D. I've had it on my mind for a while and I am more comfortable with the idea as each day goes by. In some way, I think I need it for taking my mental health and sanity to the next level. W still occupies more mental space than I want her to, and I need the D to feel whole again. I need her to officially be out of my life. I know it's a stupid piece of paper, but I feel that I won't reach my full healing potential until it's done. So, let's see. I haven't scoped out any lawyers yet, but I know a few in town and I might start putting out feelers in June and see. I believe that I am ready. I also don't know if I will fully be able to date and get out there if I am still technically married. Maybe I am just too old fashioned.
