I had no idea what a MLC was until now...

[Gordie]

I do not know the dynamics

But sounds like you put your life and work second to your w

Is that true

Is that your marital agreement

Is that ok with you

Now is the time to figure out what you want and how to get it

I totally get wanting to avoid the conflict of you working more

And the friction it will cause with her

And the difficulty of child care

But I do not think conflict avoidance is helping you

You have to think that divorce is a real possibility

And if so it is really important you establish the work and child care division of responsibilities now

For me it meant stepping up my child care

For you it may mean giving more to her

I do not know

But just guessing from what you have written