The physical work I have done obviously was jump started by the BD, I literally didn't eat an ounce of food for a month! Then I found this site and it changed my life! Not only has it become my new way of life(eating, working out) but the positive impact on my kids is really starting to pay off, they want to go with me whether it's biking, kayaking, walking, whatever, they want to be with me.
Dating, I did meet someone and went out a few times recently, had a lot of fun but...... I realized that I am not ready. I am not ready to invest the time needed to build anything with anyone and I had to tell her this. She understood as she went through this a few years ago. I have too much stuff I want to do for myself. So tread lightly there.
The list... I have an actual list that my XW wrote out and gave me of all her complaints of my issues. I have kept this list, it's kind of a dear John letter, of course we know this is what they need to do to convince themselves of their decision. I too went through this "list" and worked my ass off on the things I agreed with. My XW has not put the work in, she saw an IC a couple times last year and that's it. So she must be cured?? lol
