You are right, Laurie.

I think I have come really far in accepting my H flaws and all at this point compared to a year ago, compared to the whole time I've know him!

I think I did a little bit of this (taking things personal) on Sunday at first and then I was able to gain my composure and validate HIM. When he came out and said he didn't love me, that to hug me didn't feel right, I didn't take it personal. BECAUSE I know feelings can change. Once we got past the initial blow up, it did get easier the more he talked to not take it personally.

The one thing I regret is immediately telling our S that his daddy was leaving. I did this one other time, but that was when H TOLD me he was moving all of his stuff out on the weekend and stormed out of the house.

I do need to shield our S from future discussios like the one on Sunday. H did not want it to happen in front of him, but I don't think H thought that the discussion would go as far as it did.

Something to work on.

Cathy