She also called me tonight, I did not answer because I was out playing volleyball with some new friends.
In all seriousness, like how long do I just stay dark? I already told her to mail me the documents...so, I really dont need to respond to her at all do i?
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
She is now texting saying: she wishes I would pick up so we could talk. Texting and mailing eachother documents just seems very cold and she doesnt want that for us.
More of the same...
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
Leave it be, she's trying to make her self feel better. She wants to talk to you, and give you her sob story about how she felt in the M. And how she just don't want bad blood or anger or hostility. She wants to still be friends. Leave her be. Let her go. This is her decision and, she needs to live with all that comes with it.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
Gee, if she didn't contact you, we'd probably never hear from you........b/c you would be move on with your life. One text, and whamo it has you at a lost to what to do? Chris, I've told you previously that she does this to keep you emotionally attached to her. When are you going to believe me?
Here's the respond:
Don't like that one?^^^^^^ How about......."Hell no!"
It is way, way past time to tell her to take a hike. If you had done that when she cheated, she might have straighten up.........instead of still yanking your chain.
I think you need to hear the above again.
The answer to your question "how long do I stay dark?" is "until she stops treating you like [censored], and expresses remorse and an actual desire to fix things." Until then, ANY CONTACT you have with her is going to make your situation WORSE.
C - I agree with everyone else.....you told her to mail them and what you would do when you got the papers. There is absolutely no reason to see her or respond to her. I agree with A she just wants to make herself feel better at your expense. also what E TN said
She is now texting saying: she wishes I would pick up so we could talk. Texting and mailing eachother documents just seems very cold and she doesnt want that for us.
More of the same...
See how ridiculous she is? She doesn't want this short-lived M, she cheated and still won't break ties with OM... Now that is COLD! But because you won't hold her hand and be chummy with her while she dissolves your M, she sees that as cold???!!! Skewed perspectiv, she's got...
W:So are you sticking to me just mailing them to you. Me: Yes. W: Got it. W: if we are not talking in person, I guess text it is. What should we do with the furniture, sell it and split it or take that same amount off the top of what I would you. W: no interest in a beer to just go through things? Me: I can get $XXX.XX for everything; I cannot sell yet, so just take it off the top. W: And to my other question? Me: No. W: Fine. Trying to throw up a hail mary here but no taking. So is it safe to assume you are ready to move on and be divorced? W: Can you please answer me that if you are not willing to see me. W: There are also some things I'd like to say to you if you will give me the opportunity.
I have not responded except for what is in that text chain above. Advice on where to go from here?
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
