Anyway, I don't do too much for her anymore. If she knows I'm shopping she asks me to buy her some food, so I'll do that. I used to chauffeur around to her job in the morning, but I've stopped that. I leave the laundry in the dryer for her to fold as that was her only real chore before I started doing everything, so she's doing that again finally. And not complaining about it too, which is nice. She used to make excuses for having no time for anything but serving herself.
You're right that I still do get frustrated when she shows me she's almost entirely self absorbed. It's hard not to, but I'm trying. I rarely show it, but man, I'm frequently rolling my eyes at some of the crap she comes up with.
I feel like things are slowly getting better. The other day she had a total meltdown about some work stuff and was screaming at me about it...the kids walked in and I had to reassure them that mommy was only angry about her work not at me. But then I felt like this shouldn't be happening in the first place, so I barked back at one point "it seems like you'd be much happier on your own" and she said "no, maybe you're trying to goad me into saying I want a D, but I'm committed to this marriage and I love you."
That was a nice surprise, but I've still got my guard way way up. Thanks for chatting.
Me: 43 She: 43 Married 14 Together 20 D7 S6 Separation bomb Dec 2017 Reconciled 3 weeks later Jan 2018 Second separation bomb April 2018
