Steve , RR thanks for the good information from your posts,


Whats been happening now is that since my W has left for over a week and as things proceed I'm noticing alot of radical mood swings. For instance, I'll be coaching my sons baseball game and this used to hold my attention indefinitely because I love sports and competition. Then a wave comes over me like " look at all these families here together- my life is really gonna suck without W!" It could be a beautiful day with a great game going on but often times -It just hits me and drags me down. Do you guys ever get these waves of negativity? How do you combat them?
When does it get better?

On a side note I have found out that my wife has left to attend a course on new age spirituality. When we met she was a Godly woman attending church each Sunday as a family. She and her sister are fascinated with things the church views as wrong. Things like Fortune tellers, mediums, tarot cards, healing crystals , reiki (they both claim to be reiki masters) and all the meta physical beliefs. As I said before I am not slandering anybody that believes in these things- I just feel i have been deceived by my W. One of the things I also found about this course is it will allow the to be certified to partake in what they term Life transitional moments. Meaning they are certified to officiate in births ,deaths and marriages. If you've been reading my stitch you will know my W was married once before me - had it annulled then married me and we renewed our vows after 10 years with the same priest that married us. Her sister since I have been with my wife - has been thru 7 different relationships in 20 yeras. And now they can officiate in marriages when they are often the cause of marital breakdown. Go figure?

My question now is because of this new found belief and this wanting to grow spiritually- does this change anything in my strategy of focus on me- DBing and doing 180? Has anybody experienced stuff like this ? What can I expect? Your input is greatly appreciated.


M51 w50
T-20Yrs M-16Yrs
S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up
1 Awesum dog
BD 10/31/17
separate rooms 02/08/18
wife moved out 05/17/18