What to Do? 7

[chris19]

Now she is asking me if she can pay me to help her with some excel work for her job.

[chris19]

Stay completely dark?

[OrangeK]

I would. She needs to know she cant expect to rely on you for things.

you dont get to quit a job and still collect a paycheck right?

this is a fine example of the inability to $h!7 or get off the pot.

The WW's cant have it both ways.

[artista]

Stay completely dark?

yes! do not do the work for her, for pay... she is terrible to do this to you... she is trying to rope you back in... she is such a game player with you... she is not nice!!!

i say stay completely dark... at the very most just say no or no thanks and THAT'S IT!!! no further discussion... no further comments... even if she asks why or says anything in return... IGNORE HER!!! you are not in a good, strong place right now...

[SwHubby]

I agree about going dark, I do not think there will be anything good for you regarding staying in contact.

[SwHubby]

And since you do not have any kids, it is possible to go competely dark. It is very cruel to contact you like this over and over again.

[sandi2]

Now she is asking me if she can pay me to help her with some excel work for her job.

Gee, if she didn't contact you, we'd probably never hear from you........b/c you would be move on with your life. One text, and whamo it has you at a lost to what to do? Chris, I've told you previously that she does this to keep you emotionally attached to her. When are you going to believe me?


Here's the respond:

Don't like that one?^^^^^^ How about......."Hell no!"

It is way, way past time to tell her to take a hike. If you had done that when she cheated, she might have straighten up.........instead of still yanking your chain. Time to deal with her like a man. A man who couldn't care less if she ever gets help with Excel.

[chris19]

Sandi, thanks you for the input.

I need to grow a pair it is tuff love and I appreciate it. Im just having trouble finding my inner self to do so. I don t know wtf is wrong with me. She wishes me happy bday today. I m just going to ignore it.


I know it is tuff love and I appreciate it. I am just having trouble finding that inner strength I don t know wtf is wrong with me. It is annoying to myself.

She wished me happy bday today I am ingorning that.

[chris19]

Sandi, thank you for the response. I appreciate the tough love; and I really do understand. I am having problems finding inner strength to continue with this.

[chris19]

So got a text from W:

Hello Chris, I dnt know if you want to talk or nto but i dnt really know what to do from here besides file. to do that, i need u to sign a few thngs and get it notarized. can you do that if I bring the papers to u?