NO, it doesn't sound wacky, and that's exactly what you have to do... everything you are doing is going no where as far as fixing H, just give him to God and LET GO. Is it easy, no, do you have to work at it daily, YES... but do it, Cathy. Stop worrying about him, stop trying to fix him and the sith, stop trying to control him. Let it go.
Funny how H called to do lunch... let go, Cathy, without expectation, live in the here and now...and see what the Lord can do.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.