Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

[sandi2]

I am not surprised by your WW's actions. When your son asks why you cheated on his mom, tell him you will explain when he is older. It is hard to explain to children. Tell him you are not cheating on his mom now.

She will use the children to hurt you. I am sorry. She will make this sound as if everything is your fault. You will be okay. Don't believe her lies.

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Is that the very worst thing she can do to hurt you? Tell me why this would hurt?

I know it is not healthy to take it so deep, but all our M, i have supper to not have her sexual as i would be normal. But in the end of the day, i will handle.

The translation is confusing, but I think you are referring to not having her sexually. You have not had her for five years! All the five years you could have been with another woman, but you remained faithful. You will find a good woman that will love you properly.

So, from some days now, i am not the old beta/omega f**ng nice guy, who was company (she try to make us friends) his WW to diners/beer/coffee with OM1, or who when WW call me to si if i come home and look after kids, telling me, she is going on diner with OM2, and i have respond "i understand" - that was advise from other forum 2 years ago ....

Great job! Great attitude!

I have panic attacks and anxiety, but handle very well.

A medical doctor can give you a prescription to help with the panic attacks, and not sleeping well.

I am disappointed the abuse center was not more helpful. Please make an appointment to see a counselor. You need someone to talk with you.

1. Next week there is mountain walk in our sport activity center, should i spend time with the kids and WW.

No more activities as a family with your WW. Find things to do with you and the kids......but W cannot be included. Even if the kids ask you to join them and WW, do not participate. If they ask if mom can join you.......say, "Sorry, no". You can do this!

2. Next moth WW have Bird day, should i do something.

No! No card, no gift, no text, no nothing for any occasion for your WW. She is no longer your W. You have no duty to her. No more celebrations with her.

3. The kids want spend some time together as family (my WW telling them it is better to be separated than to be together and fight). WW told them if we separated we are going to be more nice each other.

No. This is children's way of trying to keep their parents together. You are separated and the kids will have two families. It is sad, but it has to be this way. It will be difficult at first, but they will adjust.

You must tell the children you will have a place soon and they will be able to stay with you. They will have two houses, instead of one. They need to know they are not losing you as a father. They need something to look forward to the future with you.

((hugs))