That is what detachment, validation, 180s, and GAL do. You tell her you don't want the divorce, that you want to work on the marriage. But you also tell her that you have to let her go if she chooses to leave. And then you detach. You validate. You 180 and GAL. Become the spouse only a fool would leave.
But whether she stays or goes is still her choice.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
