Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 3)

[OrangeK]

Orange, my wife has a lot of past trauma and most likely a personality disorder as well. I think the drug use is a coping mechanism to deal with those 2 main issues. So instead of childhood issues and mental disorders, I get the drug abuse for the WW trifecta.

As far as the public blowback, she has had to jump from social group to social group. People find out she's full of crap and lying, so they quit hanging out with her. I've had several people tell me that all she wants is attention and they got tired of it. They bought into her lies in the beginning, but eventually saw through them. The little click she's in now is with OM and his friends, and she's got them under her thumb. Has them convinced I've been abusing her for years. So I'm sure he feels like some sort of white knight, when in reality he's just white trash...

Dude, you are describing my wife to a tee. LIKE TO A TEE.
Have you read much about Cluster B personality disorders?
It sounds like they are both prime candidates. Your sitch is the one i follow most closely because we are on similar time frames and our Wives seem so similar.

The whole cycling social groups is the same. When we got married my WW maybe had 3 non-family guests and only 2 of her 3 bridesmaids were her friends (both of which now hate her) and the 3rd was my really close Female friend.
Because she doesnt have a single "Lifer" best friend. She has alienated or excommunicated every person shes ever been close with once they call her out at some point on her Instagram copying or other weird triangulation behaviors.
Her new click will see through her BS soon, just as i expect my WW's new social circle will turn on her when she gets comfortable enough to start messing with them too.

Its a very sad pattern to watch, isnt it?
like Dr Jekyl and Mrs. Crazya$$teenager right?