Orange, my wife has a lot of past trauma and most likely a personality disorder as well. I think the drug use is a coping mechanism to deal with those 2 main issues. So instead of childhood issues and mental disorders, I get the drug abuse for the WW trifecta.
As far as the public blowback, she has had to jump from social group to social group. People find out she's full of crap and lying, so they quit hanging out with her. I've had several people tell me that all she wants is attention and they got tired of it. They bought into her lies in the beginning, but eventually saw through them. The little click she's in now is with OM and his friends, and she's got them under her thumb. Has them convinced I've been abusing her for years. So I'm sure he feels like some sort of white knight, when in reality he's just white trash...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019