World is upside down right now

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I will try to be as brief in my telling of our history as I can be in this introduction. Please ask any questions for clarification.

H and I have been together for 7 1/2 years, married 1yr8m. Things were amazing, we did so much together, we both loved spending time with one another and we were inseparable. Our jobs were separate schedules and so we saw each other for only a couple hours each day during the week. We were having sex at least once or twice a week at this point. In December, he got a new job, we talked about it and agreed upon. They told us that he would be minimally travelling every third week. Not true! It ended up being every week, sometimes 2 days, sometimes 5 days, nothing was consistent, it was hard to plan anything. We still did things, had fun, thought everything was good. With him being out of town, sex was normally once a week, mostly initiated by me. End of March, I found out I was pregnant and it wasn't planned. He wasn't very happy about it, I think scared. A week later, after my probing based on his behavior, he tells me he isn't happy and hasn't been for a few months. He says that we don't go out and do fun things anymore, our sex life has decreased, and I don't get up to greet him when he returns from being gone. For the time he is home and when he returns next week, I spice things up in the bedroom, I greet him when he returns, I feel like everything is better. He then goes out of town for the whole week, so not much real talking happens. The next week, I planned a fun date for us, we went, it was awkward, but I still enjoyed myself, not knowing what was to come. The next day, he basically told me that he doesn't feel like working on us. He never gave a reason as to what happened. He did tell me there was not anyone else, nor were there any "mistakes" while he was out of town. I 90% believe him, but I can't be 100% sure either way. He is never in the same place twice when he is out of town and when he is home, he is at home. Three days ago, I planned for us to go floating and camping on a beautiful weekend, he agreed to it, then told me he didn't want to go the day of. I asked what he was planning on doing instead, he said he was going to pack a bag and leave. he told me he's not excited to come home anymore. He left, that was about it. I didn't contact him, he sent a text that night that said, "I'm alive. Staying at (friend's). Goodnight." I responded, right away, "Thank you. Goodnight." The next morning, I started doing research and came across DR and LRT information. I was pretty blown away that everything LRT says to stop doing, I was doing. I wrote letters, wanted to be in constant contact, bought cards, a couple gifts, planned dates, planned trips, showed him old pictures, etc. When I read why you shouldn't do those things, it was so eye-opening, and makes sense. I have stopped contact, which is super hard! I haven't heard from him in 3 1/2 days. He is not at the house, but he doesn't have much to live off of, so I can't imagine he'll be gone for too long without contact, at least to get some things.

I teach, so teaching is taking up a lot of my time right now, I am also taking an online class, so lots of homework. When summer break gets here, I will be much more free to do things and focus on me and my happiness. I have already started to look at new hobbies and volunteering opportunities. I have been seeing my friends more and working out. I feel like I am going in the right direction for myself, it is, of course, so hard! DR arrived yesterday and I am already halfway through it, can't wait to pick it back up this afternoon. I am hopeful, but I have also read many of the posts on here. I plan on making a phone coaching appointment soon, I'd like to finish the book first.

I know there is so much more I could save and more info to give, but I'll answer any questions that anyone has.

Thanks for you support already!

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