Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 3)

[OrangeK]

I get why you would say that, because then you think you would know the reason for her waywardness, but I wouldn't wish this on anybody. The whole situation $ucks. W gave up everything to get high with OM. Sometimes I catch myself falling back into the old pattern of thinking I can convince her to get help, but I know it doesn't work. She has to want to get help herself, and she doesn't. Maybe someday she'll snap out of it, and maybe she won't. But I've got to move on and take care of myself and the kids. When her life turns into a dumpster fire, we don't need to be anywhere near it. It just $ucks having to let go of something that was so important to you, and not being able to do anything about it...

At least that way i'd know for sure the source of her lunacy. With my WW its all boiling down to past trauma and emotional disorders. Something far less likely to cause her to want to get help.
My wife gave up everything to just be with OM, and after a scant 4 months of marriage. I would feel a lot better about MYSELF if i knew it was to fuel a drug habit and that if she were clean i MIGHT see my old wife back. That isnt going to happen for me, as i dont think she was actually using drugs, but shes a very good hider of secrets so i could still be on point with the drugs thing.
Only time will tell.

MTB, how is your WW handling all the public blowback from all of this? Seems like She didnt keep it out of the gossip mill, same as my wife.
Crappy cover up job, unless it was intentionally crappy to get the result i have, but based on my wifes need for approval by others i highly doubt this.