W sent me a text last night asking if the kids had any plans tonight. I think she's starting to realize she needs to make plans in advance instead of showing up on my door step randomly. I told her they didn't. She asked if she could take them to get ice cream. I said sure and asked what time. She asked when we would be having dinner so she could take them after that. I told her what time we were eating and she was more than welcome to eat with us if she wanted. Looking back, I wish I hadn't because she sent a text back saying I'm mean and hateful and she doesn't understand why I would invite her to dinner. I never responded after that. 2 hours later she sent me another text that consisted of "???", wanting a response from me. I still did not respond. I guess that was a mistake on my part, but I was just trying to be nice. I know the kids would have liked to have dinner with their mom. And I have no problem with her coming over at a planned time and being civil...
Please go admin on her, colloquially known as parallel parenting.
Have you thought of an online calendar? Such as my family wizard?
If you haven't researched it yet, look at BIFF responses. Brief informed friendly firm responses to texts, emails and letters.
You may find it helps, so WW, I really want you to see the kids, they are free Thursday after 6pm for ice cream. If I don't hear from you by Thursday at 9 am then we may make alternate plans. Or
I am making supper for the kids on Tuesday at 5:30 if you would like to bring ice cream for pudding. Can you let me know by text on xxxxxx xxxxxxx.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
