I may have told you this story, but a close family member of mine is having an A. Her H doesn't know, and she said to me "If my H found out, he probably still wouldn't leave me or be a man about it, and he would turn his head the other way. I can't tell you how much of a turn-off that is, he has no balls" She has told him she is unattracted to him and staying with him for the kid and there will be no sex. And the fact that he is willing to live with that turns her off even MORE
This story reminds me of how you conveyed the coach's advice. According to you, the advice was not to tell your sister that your W was cheating with her H, and you were told not to tell the parents and to go on with family events as if nothing had happened. So, that is exactly what you chose to do.
You wouldn't even respond when we asked you not to leave us hanging. So, I don't know why you are asking us about being the next door neighbor to your cheating wife.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
