M.... My IC actually studied with this auther to learn how to apply her techniques in her practice, so a lot of what she preaches resonates with me. After BD I took a real hard look in the mirror to understand what the hell happened to my life and marriage, was there anything I could have done different, better, for some stupid reason my XW convinced me that it was all my fault including her A. It took me a couples months before I had an awakening of sorts, it was my IC who challenged me to create a list much like you did before I started to realize who I was and what I wanted to become.
The first step was becoming healthy physically, I now work out 5/6 days a week, lost almost 70lbs, and I feel amazing! Then the mental work started, I read a bunch of books including the DR, I feel I have some new tools to succeed on my own as a single awesome father! My kids will benefit my much needed change!
I went on a couple dates and I now know that I have a lot to offer, this is something I really questioned a year ago! This site, the DR book, and GAL truly is to save yourself, not your marriage. Without these things I have no idea where we would be at!!!
Keep up with your posts, the make a difference with me!
