"I've taken care of H for X # of years, and S for 15 years, not it is time to take care of me!"
She at one point said this to me which does not make sense because once you decide you have kids I feel- Since we want whats best for our kids- Always wanting them to have more than you have. Then your focus should be kids first and you lose the right to play the selfish "Me card" . The kids trump everything. My 2 cents.
So when do they actually realize that what they are doing is wrong?
Every one is different. Some realize it right away and do it anyway. Some never come the realization. No one can tell you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
