Sorry to be so direct, but I'm glad you've come to your senses tonight. MLC is unlike any "normal" relationship problems without any rhyme or reason to them. Your h is very deep into the "me mode" now that anything you say about your needs will push him farther away than ever and I'd hate to see that happen. Vinlad is right, your h is not sane right now. What you need to do to fulfill your own needs is to find pleasure in the things you enjoy and do for yourself. Be mysterious as you say and go out and enjoy yourself this weekend. Once your h's crisis is over you'll have the time to talk about your needs, but not at this time. At this time you need to continue to lovingly detach.
If you like to read, I recommend visiting the mlc board and taking a look at the books on the recommended reading material thread. Reading some books about depression and mlc will help you see your h's actions from a different perspective and you'll understand a little better what he's experiencing.
