Cathy,

This is just something to think about. Do not yell at me or anything, just think about it.

Put yourself in his shoes for a minute okay. You are the sane one right now and yes the feelings, desires, wants and needs that you have are very important and need to be fulfilled. There is no question about that and I agree, there is going to come a time when you are going to be able to express all of that, but if you were in his shoes right now. Dealing with all the emotional things that he is dealing with right at this time. If you were as confused as he is and as unsure of yourself as he is, would you be able to handle someone coming up to you and telling you that you are just not fulfilling their needs?

Like when your world was crashing in on you and you had everyone from every angle coming at you telling you what you should do and then him telling you how you had treated him and so forth, could you have handled people coming up to you at that time telling you that you weren't doing a good job in other areas?

You are going to have the right to tell him all of those things and soon, but I don't think now is the time to tell him. Allow the Lord more time to heal him and to strip him of the things that he is trying to do now. That is probably more then he can handle at this point.

HB describes how when her and her husband had that it felt just like having and nothing different. She did say in time that it did have all the emotions and everything come back. There are alot of things that he is working through right now and you have to give him the time to work through them.

If you can find her thread that explains this, it would probably help you out a great deal. I wish that I could remember the title of the thread, but I can not. She went through the very thing that you are going through right now and she expressed PATIENCE during this time. This is a very fragile time right now.

Laurie