W on her way to work. H says ILY, there is an implied need for a response.(Pursuing)
H and W having a R talk. H in the context of the discussion says "ILY but I'm not going to ......whatever." That is simply a profession. As long as it is not pursuing and that obviously means infrequent. It is said as a disclosure. If this is confusing, just don't say it.
The confusing part can be for the WAS/WS. The problem with saying ILY isn't just the implication of looking for a response, but also it reminds the WAS that they don't love you, at least they don't think they do in their WA state.
The best rule of thumb is to just not say it. Whether it is pursuing or not it is pressure, and you want to alleviate as much pressure on the WAS as possible.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
