She's definitely gotten much worse this past year. Not only with the job obsession but her anti-mom/wife attitude. She's finally now claiming she wants a real balance and to have her wknds be for the family, but I know it'll take at least another couple months or more before she's got a new job.
She was saying more often in the thick of her MLC-ish fog that "I've been a mom long enough giving my body and life to these kids, it's time to put me first." But even though she's now saying that we should come first her actions are entirely self-serving.
How much time do I give her to show me and prove she really wants this?
As far as me? I'm just trying to be a good dad. I need her to quit so I can work more again. I'm down to two days a week as I bear the burden of everything else, and even though I make more than enough to support myself and over half the expenses she holds it over me that she's the breadwinner. I've never asked her for money (we have our own accounts), but she flips out if I ever second guess her purchases, which are frequent and frivolous. She's always been a little wasteful but now it's gotten crazy. I don't even say anything about all the clothes she orders online, but frequently boxes from Amazon arrive with a case of something we have a ton of already... I mostly hate being on eggshells around someone with such a hot temper. I hope she's honest with her therapist about this so she can work on it.
Thanks again for listening.
Me: 43 She: 43 Married 14 Together 20 D7 S6 Separation bomb Dec 2017 Reconciled 3 weeks later Jan 2018 Second separation bomb April 2018
