Both, I think.

I think you can ask for what you want, but you need to wait until the time is right.

This is such a hard road. You do deserve to have what you want, and it is frustrating not to get it. The question is how to ask for it without rushing into it?

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.